My Husband is a sex addict

inapickle · Joined: 15 Aug 2008 Posts: 2

I know y'all gonna gasp at me. I am one of those women whose husbands wanted to keep bare footed and pregnant. He wanted a huge family and I stupidly gave it to him. Please don't mistake me, I love and adore my kiddos but I regret my husband.

My husband is a sex addict. I am not opposed to porn much, but his frequent use esculated to daily and more risque'. While I would give in and watch porn with him and make like it was no big deal to me, he got heavier into it and now our credit history is destroyed. I had no clue he was racking up all these charges. He shifted the credit card bills to his office. I wondered why they went missing until I received a phone call from one of the CC companies.

I thought he was looking at soft porn stuff. He has magazine collection and video collection. I had no idea he belonged to porn sites too and was forking out thousands of our money over the years.

He left the computer on one day and I discovered a email account that he did not tell me about. He was still logged on and I discovered he was meeting people from craigslist. DD for this was 3 weeks ago. I also found out the sites he belongs to on top of all that.

I feel weak and numbed out. I want to leave but with 7 kids how can I leave? We were young when we married and he wanted a lot of kids. I have nothing to fall back on.

Oh yes, I confronted the pig, but he gave nothing but excuses. I got fat, blah blah blah. What did he expect me to do? Stay petite after pushing out kid after kid?

He is a trucker and gone a lot of the time. I feel happy he is away now, but I worry what he is doing on the road.
Am I being weak or what?

flamerose · Joined: 23 Jun 2008 Posts: 125

Unfortunately, inapickle, I didn't read this first before answering the other forum but if I were you I would definately talk to an attorney. Call the credit card company and ask them for copies of all the billings. Have the bills sent to you!
You have confronted him and he shifted the blame. That is so typical. What I want you to know is THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT! You are only responsible for your part in the marriage...not his behavior, not the choices he made...nope, that is all him! Get into counseling or talk to a pastor/priest. Get from consultation from an attorney. Be sure to eat and sleep! Save copies of all information you get on him. Read throughout the forum and learn from the information their. Many if not all of us have been through this. We post what we have learned from our experience... Hang in there it will take time to get past this but in the meantime focus on you and your kids!