When Do I call It Quits?

dupedfool · Joined: 06 Jun 2007 Posts: 3

I need some support. I don't know wen to call it quits.
A little background. Have ben living 2gether for 3 years with promise of marriage, but this is the 3rd time he is postponing the wedding. We have ben 2gether 4 a total of 5 years now and I am getting tired of being brushed off. I am 31 and the clock is ticking.
My BF bought a house a year ago and we were supposed to marry around the same time, but he put it off. Now we are set to marry in Oct, but again, he wants 2 put it off until the following spring. My name is not on the deed yet. He doesnt give good reasons why he puts it off. Nothing I can understand as valid reason.

Here is the thing. He has a prob with porn and cyber sex and it is not getting better with time. He sez it is nothing 2 fret over bcoz it is not touching. I see it in the broser history all the time.
I work overnight shift so he has a lot of time for doing these things behind my back. He knows I don't like it. We quarrel over it time and time again and he still disrespects and laughs at me and sez all men do this.
Our sex life is good and frequent (few times a week) Sorry if tmi. I don't understand why he still does this wen he is getting good sex from me.
I can be ok w/ a small amt of porn use, but the cyber sex is getting underneath my skin and not acceptable but keeps happening. Plus I feel odd thinking he might be picturing other images wen he is having sex with me. I dont like that mindset I am thinking.

I luv this man with all my heart and don't know how to walk away from him. He has a way of sweet talk.
TIA

LifeLoveHappiness · Joined: 09 May 2007 Posts: 194 Location: Maryland

When to call it quits is a personal decision that you will have to make. Each of us have a breaking point.

quinnjava · Joined: 15 Jun 2007 Posts: 2

The only thing I can think of that may help is to quit arguing over the cyber stuff and consider it a porn magazine unless he makescontact with them by phone or hidden email messages to another cite. If he arrages a meeting or something it is probably real cheating, unless you feel that it is cheating anyway. If you do, then you should leave him. Another thing you should do is set another date for a wedding, plan it out and be really cheerful about it. If he drops out, the walk away.
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Anita_ushfw · Joined: 19 Jun 2008 Posts: 8

i think he is just using you for his sexual satisfaction,i do not understand why you have allowed him to have sexual contact with you.it is,obvious,that after having his desire fulfilled from you,what kind of interest he has towards you know.

flamerose · Joined: 23 Jun 2008 Posts: 125

Duped,

Your bf is addicted. He needs to get into counseling!

MagicOPromotion · Joined: 03 May 2009 Posts: 6 Location: England

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