Why can't cheaters confess even with evidence?

pissed · Joined: 22 Aug 2008 Posts: 2

Help me to understand this for those who have cheated. Why is it so hard to come clean to your spouse even when presented with evidence? Why do you continue to lie about it? I am not here to bash anyone, I want to comprehend it thats all. TIA.

LifeLoveHappiness · Joined: 09 May 2007 Posts: 194 Location: Maryland

It's akin to the song lyrics 'that's my story and I'm stickin to it'. Even when confronted with the truth, they stick to their story till the end. In their minds, if they don't waiver from the original story it becomes the truth. There's a pet name for men like that... FOOLS

flamerose · Joined: 23 Jun 2008 Posts: 125

PIssed,

Have you ever been around a drug addict or an alcoholic? Have you ever noticed the same kind of behavior? Actually, the behaviors are similiar in many ways. Denial, remorse or no remorse, etc. They are in a "fog". You can do some reading up on it. Google up Affairs and cognizant and see what comes up. Unfortunately, I havent' really found a good one that explains. A friend of mine emailed me an article about the brain how it reacts when someone is in an affair, etc. I'm not sure I still have it but I'll look it up and maybe I'll post it here...I hope this helped some!

Confused · Joined: 30 Dec 2008 Posts: 4

I have confronted my BF on occassion and is only told what he wants to tell me. I have a gut feeling he is cheating but how can I find out without it costing money? I found a receipt (week after the fact) that puts him somewhere else other than work ( I have the text and receipt to prove it). However I know he is going to have an excuse that he bought the tickets for someone else and he was indeed at work. We are suppose to be getting married soon and I want to know before I say I do. Thanks
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